When I started this blog last year, I did so as a fun, creative outlet. It combines my love of fashion and shopping with my love of writing. I was an editor for my high school newspaper back in the day, and in some ways blogging has touched on that passion once again. My goal is to provide fashion inspiration and direction in the world of online shopping. Abby Savvy is meant to be a fun place to spend a few minutes now and then.
Then, something unexpected happened. My mom, who spent most of her life battling autoimmune disease, came to the Bay Area four weeks ago to seek treatment. She was doing OK and we were hopeful for the future and a better quality of life for her. After nearly three weeks in the hospital, she contracted a terrible infection and her body just wasn’t strong enough to fight it off. We said goodbye to her on Sunday, April 15th. It is the hardest thing I have ever had to do.
Needless to say, my blog has been on hold. My time is occupied elsewhere. The other problem is that I am not sure how to handle this in such a public forum. Most of my posts are about fashion, but it feels disingenuous to simply return to posting about outfits without acknowledging what has happened for us these past few weeks.
We now must begin the difficult process of reinventing our lives without her in it. I can’t say I’m even a little bit prepared for that. We should have had 30 more years! I am thankful for the qualities I inherited from her, for her faith in Jesus that I saw in action every day of her life, and for the wonderful marriage she had with my dad. Planning my wedding with her was so much fun. We traveled with my parents, and my mom was there for the birth of both of my babies. I don’t think a day will go by when I don’t wish I could call her to chat or ask for advice, but I am so thankful for all the love and support that she gave me and my family while she was here. As my dad said, she truly laid down her life for us.
I am not sure exactly where to go from here. I will return to outfit posts, but I will also share a bit about what we have been going through. Truthfully, I was a bit hesitant to tell my mom when I decided to start Abby Savvy. After all, I have an expensive legal education and I have decided, for the moment, not to use it. But she was excited! I should have known. So I will keep at it, wishing that she was still here to follow along, but so very grateful that she was my biggest fan.
Oh Abby, I’m so sorry! There are no satisfactory words for a time like this. I will pray for you and your family, for comfort and divine peace. Thanks so much for sharing this with us. This is real life stuff and it matters so much. I’m so sorry.
Thank you so much. I really appreciate it.
She is still following along… xoxoxo
Love you, friend!
Abby you are beautiful inside and out! I am so sorry for your loss, but we both know absent here means present with the Lord. Hey who knows, maybe this blog will lead to you being a news person like the ladies on Today show 🙂 Love you Sister in Christ! You may not know where to go from here, but we know the 1 who does.
Such encouraging words of truth!! I love what you said at the end – we know the One who does. Thanks for the reminder.
Nursing and crying. This is my very favorite thing you’ve ever written. Love you so, so much.
I love you too.
What a whirlwind couple of months! I’m so sorry for your loss, she sounds like an amazing person. Thankyou for sharing, a powerful way to build your village and give you time to grieve ❤️ Ecclesiastes 3:4 & John 16:22 ❤️ praying for comfort for you and your family during this time and until you are reunited 🙏
Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. It’s not easy, but I am truly sustained by the prayers and love of those around me right now.
She would have loved this, Abby. I do. Love you so much.
Thank you for saying that. Love you too.
Abby, I’m so sorry for your loss. My love to you and your family. I know how close you two were. Love you.
-Erin
Thank you, dear friend. Love you too.
What a lovely post! Your mom sounds like a special lady.💕💕
Thanks, Brandy.
Thanks for your loving words in the blog. I miss your mom too! I have many wonderful memories with her!
I love that our families have been friends for so long! Hope to see you all again soon.